Lock Up Your Sons

By | 2018-10-08T19:54:58+00:00 October 9th, 2018|
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Look at thus [sic] chorus of entitled white men justifying a serial rapist’s arrogated entitlement,” wrote Georgetown University professor Christine Fair, referring to Senate Republicans and the guilty-until-proven innocent Supreme Court nominee (now Justice) Brett Kavanaugh. “All of them deserve miserable deaths while feminists laugh as they take their last gasps. Bonus: we castrate their corpses and feed them to swine? Yes.”

“It is hard to read an article like this and avoid the conclusion that we live in a culture that hates women, just hates us,” spat Chloe Angyal on MSNBC, referring to the University of Virginia “rape” case. A woman Rolling Stone called “Jackie” had claimed that several members of a fraternity took turns raping her at a party. The magazine ended up paying $1.65 million to the fraternity because “Jackie” lied. But the fact that it was so easy for so many to believe the outrageous lie shows, in truth, that we live in a culture that hates men.

“But really, guess who’s perpetuating all of these kinds of actions? It’s the men in this country,” Senator Mazie Hirono (D-Hawaii) said recently. She was referring, of course, to the assault allegation against Kavanaugh. “And I just want to say to the men in this country: Just shut up and step up. Do the right thing, for a change.”

Never mind that in March a 36-year-old woman in Hirono’s home state was indicted for sexually assaulting a 16-year-old boy. Never mind that 88 percent of police─the people who protect women from assaults─are men (i.e., only 12 percent of those who’ve “stepped up” are women). Never mind that 96 percent of firemen are men. Never mind that 85 percent of our military personnel are men, and 100 percent of the people with Selective Service numbers (for military draft eligibility) are men.

Men doing the “right thing,” using their natural aggression to protect others, is the norm. If Hirono had made her comment about a racial group (“It’s the blacks in this country”), she would be forced to resign. If a male politician had told the women of America to “Just shut up,” an army of purple- and red-haired Amazons would be outside his office with pitchforks.

Shifting Narratives
Our society in fact adulates women. More than 80 percent of the men on The Titanic died, while 75 percent of the women lived; yet clearly men, being stronger, could probably have taken all of the lifeboats if what Chloe Angyal claimed were true.  A Baltimore woman was able to get a mob to murder a man  just by falsely claiming that the man had raped her.  Though disputed, some say that in Muslim jurisprudence, the word of a woman is sometimes worth half that of a man, and, we in the West look down our noses at that. Yet it is undisputedly the case in our society that the word of a woman is worth more than that of two men.

Kavanaugh’s accuser, Christine Blasey Ford, named four people at the alleged party where Kavanaugh allegedly attacked her. Kavanaugh categorically denied this. A second man said he had no memory of such a party or incident. A third man said he had no knowledge of such a party. None of that mattered. The fourth purported witness, a woman, said she has been a lifelong friend of Blasey, but could not recall ever being at a party with Kavanaugh.

That was when the media conveniently started discussing a second accuser.

Deborah Ramirez says she was drunk and cannot clearly remember a college party where Kavanaugh allegedly showed her, in the presence of several people, something of his she did not wish to see. Indeed, it was only “[a]fter six days of carefully assessing her memories and consulting with her attorney” that she could remember. Even though “The New Yorker [had] not confirmed with other eyewitnesses that Kavanaugh was present at the party”—indeed, “two of those male classmates who Ramirez alleged were involved in the incident, the wife of a third male student she said was involved, and one other classmate, Dan Murphy, disputed Ramirez’s account of events”—The New Yorker published the story anyway. The word of one drunk girl is worth more than that of three men.

Ramirez claimed that she was scarred by the experience because she only ever wanted to see a naked man after she was married. And yet she later attended Kavanaugh’s wedding, posing with him, smiling, for pictures.

Protect Men From False Claims
This gives us the solution. Today, there are “rape shield” policies that allow women, like Jackie, to make anonymous accusations with impunity. Courts are forbidden to discuss the history of accusers, even when it is relevant, as in Ramirez’s case (she says Kavanaugh exposed himself to her, and this was bad because she only ever wanted to see such a sight after she got married. We’re discussing when he lost his virginity; so, did she wait until she got married? If not, this suggests that she’s not truthful. Knowing if she was a virgin bride, as she implies she wanted to be, enables us to assess her credibility) or in Bill Cosby’s case (one of his accusers pled guilty to prostitution; prostitutes literally will lie with men for money, no drugs needed).

If it is relevant what a friend of Kavanaugh’s may have once told an ex-girlfriend about a party not involving Kavanaugh (!), why can’t we discuss Blasey’s high-school yearbook—we’re discussing his—or the rumor that Blasey boasted of having been with 54 men in high school? Someone like that may have tussled with more than one male and gotten her parties confused. In an era of slutwalks, when women can legally go topless, laws protecting the “honor” of women are anachronistic.

Laws protecting men are needed. Women are the perpetrators in 70 percent of cases of one-sided domestic violence.

A few years ago, a woman threatened my life, touting her connection to the mafia (a credible claim) and saying that I might wind up “in the news.” I reported this thinly veiled threat to police. After I filed charges, I got an appointment with two women working for the office of the state’s attorney. One of those women literally laughed in my face, saying it’s good to be “in the news.”

Our society is dripping with the hatred of women─for men.

Today’s “Josef K” is Kavanaugh. Tomorrow it’s your son.

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About the Author:

Jonathan David Farley
Dr. Jonathan David Farley was named one of Ebony's “30 Leaders of the Future” and was the Harvard Foundation’s Scientist of the Year in 2004. Seed magazine named him one of “15 people who have shaped the global conversation about science in 2005.” He has written for the New York Times, Time, and The Guardian.