Covering Your Kids’ Ears About ‘Shithole’? Grow Up

By | 2017-06-02T18:30:05+00:00 January 15, 2018|
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My prodigious use of profanity is one of my many shortcomings as a human being and as a mother.

No matter how many times I’ve pledged to stop swearing, especially in front of my daughters, I have always failed. (Honestly, I am only partly to blame as it would be much easier to quit cussing if area traffic, cable news, Windows updates, and people, in general, were not so fucking annoying.)

When my daughter was about three-years-old, after hearing me honk my horn at the unwitting fool who made the huge mistake of getting in front of my car while driving around my insanely congested suburb, she muttered, “asshole” under her breath. She had no idea what she was saying, or why she said it. Her reaction was purely Pavlovian, an instinct over which she had no control: Hear horn. Say asshole.

Over the years, I have tried to explain to my daughters that those are “mommy words,” just like the liquid in the special glass with the long stem is “mommy juice.” Now that they are teenagers and listen to Drake and use Twitter and communicate with teenage boys, I no longer worry about my use of foul language. And although they have grown up with a mother who can occasionally unleash a profane tirade reminiscent of a character from “Goodfellas,” they are well-adjusted children (for the most part) and my oldest will be heading off to a good college in the fall. No harm done.

Which, of course, leads me to the outrage du jour from the Puritanical Prudes on both the Left and the Right about “oh-my-heavens-what-will-we-tell-the-children?” regarding the president’s alleged use of the word “shithole.” (Jeremy Carl has a solid explainer here.)

I will not add to the overwrought debate about whether this comment was racist, or why it made Anderson Cooper cry, or where would you rather live in Haiti or Norway because this has all been exhausted over the weekend. (There is now a dispute between senators who attended the meeting about whether Trump used the word at all.) Regardless, I just want to say this to the parents who are clutching their pearls and covering their children’s ears because a grown man—yes, the president—used a swear word in a private meeting to discuss a highly contentious political issue: Grow the fuck up.

I mean, seriously? I could go in a few different directions here, such as asking those who claim that word is offensive if they’ve ever used it to describe an inner-city neighborhood (I have) or a downtrodden white town in central Illinois (I have), or Costco on a Saturday morning (I have), or my daughter’s bathroom (I have), but let’s stay focused on the idea that this word is so heinous that family newspapers struggled with how to print it, and parents rushed to turn off the television to prevent their precious children from hearing it.

On Monday, Senator Lindsey Graham (R-S.C.) said the “public discourse is pretty low” and that “it’s pretty embarrassing when you have to take your children out of the room to report the news.” (In April, Graham told Chuck Todd during a “Meet the Press” interview that Syrian President Bashar al-Assad was basically saying “F you” to President Trump. Todd said Graham’s reference to the F-word was “a first for ‘Meet the Press’” and that it had raised some eyebrows in the studio. I sure hope no one’s children were listening.)

The Resurgent contributor Erick Erickson was really on his soapbox over the weekend, posting several woeful tweets about how sad he was over the president’s potty mouth:

(I am not sure whether to be angry or amused that people like him seem to believe that previous presidents have never used naughty words in a private discussion in the White House. Does Erickson think Obama and Biden used G-rated language in their weekly meetings? How do you think they described the towns where Tea Party activists or working-class Trump voters live?)

That wasn’t all. Erickson agonized that the younger generation thinks swearing and talking about sex in front of kids is OK, even bewailing with Kurt Eichenwald (yes, that Kurt Eichenwald, the Vanity Fair writer who was busted for looking up porn on his computer last year) how the degradation of political discourse is hurting our children:

CNN contributor and NeverTrumper Amanda Carpenter also scolded the president because she was unable to watch the news with her child:

(Psssst, Amanda, the president didn’t say those words on the news. He didn’t tweet it. He said it in private. The news is reporting it on a 24-hour loop. See how that works?)

Amy Siskind, head of something called The New Agenda and an LGBT activist, thinks the president should have to go in time-out for teaching our children a bad word:

Nancy French, wife of National Review contributor David French and mother of a daughter adopted from Africa, tweeted this:

I have tremendous respect for the Frenches for adopting an orphan from another country. We did, too. But there is no evidence that Trump said anything about children adopted from oppressive, destitute countries in Africa being “unwanted.” (I have explained to our daughter many times why she’s lucky to be here instead of living in her birth country. That’s partly why we adopted her—to give her a better life in the United States.) Nancy French’s tweet is in no way a fair assessment of Trump’s alleged remarks.

The media struggled (but only momentarily) with how to repeat the “slur” on television and in newspapers and some folks even contacted the FCC about it.

Now, keep in mind, many of these news outlets have used the word “pussy” as a term of solidarity and resistance over the past 12 months. Some of the same women who are so outraged about “shithole” dragged their children to a march nearly one year ago while wearing a hat in the shape of a vagina on their head. I also noticed some of the “what about the children?” virtue signalers happily retweeted the article about Trump’s settlement with a porn star. Selective Moral Indignation is the new Trump Derangement Syndrome.

Back to swearing. We live in a crass culture, whether we like it or not. I respect the efforts of parents who are trying to shield their children from it, but it will only be a temporary respite. I would argue that it could backfire; children who live in a bubble have a hard time adjusting to reality when it smacks them in the face. Plus, teaching your kids swear words could make them smarter, according to a University of Rochester study. (I feel much better now.)

So, save the earmuffs, moms and dads. If you are the parent of young children, protecting your little ones from hearing a foul language used in private by the president will be among your easiest tasks. And save your outrage for stuff that really matters—like corruption at the FBI or appeasing mullahs. Those are far bigger threats to your child’s well-being than are a couple of swear words.

About the Author:

Julie Kelly
Julie Kelly is a senior contributor to American Greatness.
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13 Comments

  1. judgeroybean January 16, 2018 at 4:54 am

    I can understand why leftist adults have gone breathless over unconfirmed reports of President Trump accurately describing 3rd world countries. Went thru same reaction when , during the Clinton years, our 5 year old asked what a blow job was.

    • Dansidea January 16, 2018 at 9:04 am

      The fascination with gossip by these “men” is what confuses me? They love it and wonder why I don’t watch the news anymore , I also don’t enjoy sitting around talking about “what Amanda said at the party the other night ” either.

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  2. Mikey NTH January 16, 2018 at 10:01 am

    Whose little children sit and watch the news anyway?

  3. Brett baker January 16, 2018 at 2:45 pm

    Fuckin’ A!

  4. BanBait January 16, 2018 at 3:37 pm

    Hear hear! Great essay, Julie. I used to cuss like the sailor that I used to be. I live in an area with a lot of Amish and Mennonites. They hang little signs with Biblical verses under their mailboxes. One day, while cruising the country roads in my muscle car, burning refined dinosaur for no good reason whatsoever, a sign caught my eye: Swear, Not At All. Now, I’m not in the least bit religious but for some reason, those words just stuck fast. Gee, COULD I actually stop swearing? Was I even capable, after decades of highly inventive profanity? Well, for reasons I still can’t explain, it’s been cut waaaay back. Every once in a while it’ll slip out, but certainly nothing like it used to. Hope that helps.

  5. czechlist January 16, 2018 at 6:50 pm

    “Hear horn. Say asshole”
    Gotta chuckle – just like my wife and daughter some 30 years ago.
    I think my wife is even worse now.
    Daughter has kids of her own but I haven’t heard if that gene was passed on.

  6. BurkeanMama January 16, 2018 at 7:58 pm

    Linsdey Graham says hellhole, Barack Obama says shitstorm, now suddenly cursing is a problem. The President has the most disgusting liars as enemies.

    • Brother John the Deplorable January 17, 2018 at 3:49 am

      …by his enemies shall ye know him, I guess…

  7. Doctor Bass Monkey January 16, 2018 at 11:04 pm

    Erickson and the others are virtue signalling frauds who are either completely ignorant of history or outright liars. Many Presidents, especially the previous two Democrats, have said much worse in public let alone only alleged to have said something in a private meeting.

  8. rel0627 January 17, 2018 at 6:49 am

    America is full of rednecks.

  9. Chris Burke January 18, 2018 at 9:32 am

    Thanks Julie – this is a great perspective. One thing that occurred to me when reading this article is that Dick Durbin is basically the equivalent of a snitch. One of those tweets stated that if a middle school student used that term, there would be consequences. That would be true if he used it deliberately, in class, and would constitute a form of Promethean suicide. However, Trump used it in a closed-door meeting where direct and blunt language is appropriate. It does not sound like he confronted him on that issue during the meeting, but came out of the meeting later, after there was no chance For clarification, and told the press “he said shit hole.“ In the work I have done with incarcerated populations, there are two classes of people who are hated and vilified – pedophiles, and… You guessed it… Snitches. Good thing Dick Durbin is not in prison (although he may deserve to be), because I do not think he would adjust well to being the sweetheart of the cellblock .

  10. Mr. Roach January 18, 2018 at 8:15 pm

    I really loved this. Bravo! Especially below:

    Regardless, I just want to say this to the parents who are clutching their pearls and covering their children’s ears because a grown man—yes, the president—used a swear word in a private meeting to discuss a highly contentious political issue: Grow the fuck up.

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